After years of helping my sister, I had to say goodbye because I had reached my limit.

Without expecting anything in return, the individual in today’s story had always helped their sister by giving her a place to stay, money support, and unwavering emotional support. However, when disappointment set in, everything changed.

Here’s what happened: My sister has been living with us intermittently for the past four years, only paying the bills when she could. For the past two years, I have been paying her phone bill, and I am the only one who purchases groceries.

She hasn’t paid any bills lately, claiming she is more focused on taking care of herself. Additionally, she has refused to assist me around the house when I ask her to do basic tasks like “let the dogs out when I’m not home.” or “When the trash is full, can you take it out?”

I heard her calling me some horrible names on the phone today as I used the pet camera to check on my pets. It was painful because our mother didn’t want her once she turned 18, and I’ve been the only family member to assist her since then.

I lost my temper and told her how much I’ve done to make sure she had a place to live, including lending her one of our automobiles. What did she say? “I’ve always looked after myself; you’ve never looked after me.” Since she believes I don’t help her, I told her to get out of here in the heat of the moment. I’m now questioning whether I was too severe.

People offered their opinions on the matter:

It’s time for your 22-year-old sister to mature. She has spent the last four years taking advantage of you. She must accept the repercussions of her behavior. Reddit/Peony-Pony
Make sure you are aware of the legislation in your area if you choose to expel her. You want to stay out of trouble with the law because she might have tenant rights. The Reddit/Wraithowl website
Think about having a heart-to-heart with her if you feel awful about what transpired. Give her a deadline to vacate the property and express your frustration. She must begin accepting accountability. Reddit/CornerSevere
She seems to be taking your generosity for granted. She needs to leave now. Reddit/random8104

Asking their sister to go was ultimately motivated by necessity rather than rage. They came to the realization that they couldn’t continue to put their own wellbeing at risk for someone who wouldn’t change after years of giving and receiving nothing in return. Even though it was a difficult choice, it signaled the start of a new chapter in their lives, one in which they could at last prioritize their own needs and live in harmony.