On Reddit, a woman had posted her experience. She had said that her fiancé was making fun of her because she was earning more money than him, and he wanted her to cover the tab for him and his buddies at the restaurant.
Her fiance started talking about it when she said she received a 30% increase in her paycheck. “My fiancé (M37) and I have been engaged for five months. We don’t discuss money because that’s what he desires. I received a pay boost. I’ve observed that he’s been utilizing the fact that I make 30% more than he does to ask me to pay for him and his buddies. He would always answer with “the 30% that’s why” when I said “no” or “why should I pay for this.” He presents it as though I don’t deserve the 30% or that it is unjust.
As he had tricked her several times to pay for the meals, she had stated before going out that she wil not pay this time. “Several times he has tricked me to pay for his and his friend’s meals by asking me publicly. Let me say that I’m too nice to say “no”, I hate confrontation especially when we’re at a public place like a restaurant so I just grin and pay. Last tuesday, he asked me to join him and his buddies for dinner. I told him from the start I wasn’t paying for their food and he shouldn’t expect me to. He said he “got this” and “no worries”.”
Then in the middle of their meal, her fiance had whispered her that she would pay again, and she said no. “We got to the restaurant. Met his friends, ordered food. And in the middle of the meal he leaned in and whispered that I would be paying for everything he and his friends ordered. I got so mad I whispered back “noooo” but he probably relied on me not causing a scene in public and infront of his friends. he said “you have enough money you could pay for everyone’s food, 30% remember?
Her fiancé then suggested in a whisper during their dinner that she would pay again, to which she said negatively. “We arrived at the eatery. Ordered supper and met his mates. He also leaned in to whisper to me in the middle of the meal that I would be covering the cost of whatever he and his pals ordered. I was so angry that I responded with a mumbled “noooo,” but I think he was counting on me to keep quiet in front of his friends and the public. “You have enough money, remember, to pay for everyone’s food,” he remarked.
She became irate and, after paying her own account, returned home. “I was furious within. rather of taking offense and losing my cool. After waiting for the bills to arrive (which had already been divided when we placed our initial order), I paid for my and excused myself to use the washroom. After that, I stole out of there, got into my car, and drove home.
After that, her fiancé texted and called to find out where she was, to which she replied with the details. My fiancé began calling and texting me to find out where I was. I replied to his text, expressing my displeasure at how he had put me in this predicament and had essentially conned me into paying for his and his buddies’ dinner. I stopped responding after telling him I was going home.
“An hour later he came and started yelling at me calling me selfish, irrational, cheapskate, and childish for sneaking out like that and leaving him stuck with a bill he could not pay (He had to call his brother for help)” was how she continued when they got into a fight over the matter.
After a heated dispute between us, he left. His buddies avoided talking to me about it, but he told me they were disappointed in my actions and advised him to “reflect” on the kind of woman he wants to marry.
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